1. Self-advocacy carries an emotional cost, not just a logistical one.
Both participants described shame and embarrassment tied to asking, not just friction in the process itself.
2. Professors' willingness to accommodate is inconsistent.
Both participants had at least one professor who handled accommodations well, and one who didn't — with no way to know in advance which they'd get.
3. There's no single "right" communication channel.
Participant 1 preferred email or virtual contact; Participant 2 rated their comfort explaining needs over email a 2–3 out of 10, versus a 6–7 in person. A one-size-fits-all channel doesn't serve everyone.
4. Simplicity has a limit.
Participant 1 fully endorsed a one-click extension button. Participant 2 pushed back — a request that important shouldn't be too easy, and wanted the option to explain why.